As a coach, I have a coach. My coach does for me what I do for my clients. He helps me see what’s so obvious when all I can see is the black hole of nothing beyond.
Coach: “Using a metaphor describe what your life is like right now.
Me: “The first thing that comes to me is it’s like a boat sailing round the world.
“Most days it’s enjoying the beautiful sailing in the Tropics, where the sun is shining, there’s just enough breeze, the waters are stunning aqua and calm and it’s simply blissful.
“However, the last few days it’s been feeling like a very small boat in the enormous Southern Ocean, being tossed around and flung about by it’s gigantic waves and not being able to to be steady long enough to find a good direction.”
I’ve been feeling emotional, zapped of energy, a little unconnected, and unable to knuckle down to continue to build my business – then punishing myself even more for it.
Coach: ” Hold on, I want to just read back to you your values we discovered way back when – Freedom, family & friends, variety, choice, fun, adventure, playfulness…. etc, etc. Which of these are you living right now in this very moment?”
Me: “Ummmm….. actually, none”
And there was my ‘ah ha’ moment.
The ‘ah ha’ wasn’t that I didn’t know what my values where or how important there are to me.
The ‘ah ha’ was about just how easy it is the get stuck in a rut of ‘what you should be doing’ and lose sight of how you are not living them each day.
There is such a strong connection between living your values and being in the right frame of mind to deal with the easy and hard of following your dreams.
Reconnect with your values daily. I’m telling myself this as much as I’m telling you.
And with this I took the dog out and we discovered a new beautiful area to explore.
I’m feeling like my little boat is leaving behind the waves of the Southern Ocean and finding it’s way back to those beautiful calm waters again.
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Values provide great signposting for many questions we have about our lives. I help others discover their values and how to draw on them. If you want to know more about yours book in for a free Skype call to find out how coaching could help you.